The ultimate supplement one needs to grow into being a complete human, is not compressed into a tablet, ground into a powder or dissolved into wonder-drops.
The final ingredient to complete a good, wholesome diet and a healthy lifestyle is a live spirituality. This is where the true energy lies. The one area of our existence where true vitality and drive is generated.
Spirituality is concentrated in the meaning of your life. Discovering the values that you live by. The understanding of the essence of your being. Some of us find it in religious beliefs and others in an inward discovering of who and what your life is all about.
We spend so much time –and money- in pursuing a healthy diet and lifestyle in the hope that it will improve the quality of our life. The one part of our existence we often neglect is the spiritual. An equal amount of time – if not more – should be invested in caring for the spirit. This will set us on the way to a fulfilling, complete life.
On our journey in becoming who we ought to be, we leave a trail of remnants. Evidence of good and – not so good- choices. Traces of our passing by. Some, in the form of bruises in the lives of people we were unkind or uncaring to, or signs of positive growth through our interest in others.
We are not always aware what influence or effect we have on those who we meet in the normal course of our journey but it is good to be mindful of the fact that all contact with others is significant.
It is not possible to rectify all the wrongs we willingly and unknowingly caused during our wandering through this world. What is possible though, is to take time to reflect over our conduct and interaction with those who we cross paths with. No need to wait till we get feedback, just an inner objective reflection on the way we live life. Pass by the wrecks we left behind because of arrogance or indifference and celebrate the stories of growth because of our care or interest.
Then, concentrate to live with an intense consciousness of leaving a legacy of hope.
The way to the top is often interrupted with a downward turn. In striving to achieve excellence, the route to follow does not allow for an uninterrupted upward gradient. Where excellence does not mean to be the best, but to constantly improve. Not in relation to “others”, but compared to one self. Improving on your own abilities, capabilities and self-worth that are where achieving excellence becomes a constant fight against yourself.
In order to give the next step to reach the next level, there is the need for an ongoing reflection of what lies below the surface. The shadow of what your personality shines towards the world around you. The hidden motives that push you, the concealed anger you mask as “drive”. The envy you present as empathy or the arrogance you screen behind confidence.
The only way to discover and understand the shadow-side is to dive down into who I really am. To constantly ask the question, “why do I feel this way?” or “What is it I actually want?” “Why am I upset?” This kind of diving, gives you the insight into yourself to venture forward and upward.
In Africa there is a saying: “If you want to go fast, go alone. If you want to go far go together”. In venturing through this life one quickly learns that going alone is very dangerous, very risky and extremely lonely. Somewhere in the late teens of one’s life the main objective is to go alone. Be independent, do your own thing. It is only in the first major predicament that the realization dawns on you that you actually need others not only to survive but also, and especially, to get ahead – to grow.
Soon you also get to understand that although you may need the others around you, you cannot “like” everyone. Some of those you come across just cannot fit into your template of like-ness. Usually we then try to avoid those or at least evade them to save yourself from having to deal with them. Yet, the sooner one learns to grasp the fact that not to like someone is not to be confused with not to respect or even endure those.
We often hear the phrase that we should “love” one another. That does not mean to “like” everybody is even possible. It means to respect the others and acknowledge the contribution they can make in assisting me to develop my own strengths.
Alone, personal growth is just not possible. Only when you recognize the value of those around you- the ones you like as well as those you don’t- growth towards maturity can commence. Together is more.
Fear is the energy you need to advance. Our fight or flight energy is coiled within us, waiting to be released. It is inherent to every living creature. Especially true in us as humans. This is the reason why we’ve made it thus far to the top of the food chain.
This is the latent driving force, which can either destroy or develop. Utilizing this fear in a positive way is called courage. Unleashing this underlying power is essential for progress and ultimately success.
Overcoming one’s fear allow you to discover, venture out of the comfort zone and grow. To reach the top, you need to take every challenging step into the unknown. Remaining in what you know kills ambition and restrains forward movement. The test will be the level of uneasiness you feel before taking the next step. Total ease might indicate only activity, but little or no progress like running on a treadmill. Apprehension should be the trigger that you need to set the hidden energy off. Courage is the ability to break through the barriers of doubt.
The drive for success or for mere survival does not always depend on constant movement. To ensure a continuous effort in the direction of your set destination, replenishing your energy and inspiration is essential. Like a ship mooring in a harbour to restock and replace the natural thing to do would be to stop, attach and refill.
With the change of seasons in nature or in your life, this would be the wise thing to do. Stop for a while; contemplate on consumed energy and capacity. What were the areas you spent the most effort of in the recent past? It could be depleted energy because of irritations of frustrations in you or around you. Even the worn-out feeling because of a lack of recognition for all your hard work.
Now is the time for mooring to your strengths. Re-tying the ropes to your assets.
The secret is not to ponder on the frustrations of the past, but to reassure yourself of your potential and competencies. Mooring is not suspending, but sustaining. Get the provisions on board and set out for a new adventure.
It depends on the angle whether you will be able to see the rainbow. It is there, it is always there, but for your observation point it remains hidden. Two things are important in this process, one’s own position and the awareness to spot the light.
To be “in the right place at the right time” one has to pre-determine your position towards life in general. The angle at which you look at opportunities and difficulties will govern your view towards the environment. What might seem like problems or failures to some may reveal itself as an opportunity if seen from the right angle.
The awareness to spot the light from your angle just might show the rainbow against the insignificant background. In business or relationships the angle regulates one’s response. Opportunities are always there; it is often just hidden by false reflections of darkness. Changing your angle could allow you to spot the possibilities in the testing times. Once you developed the habit of consciously placing yourself at the right angle, it becomes easier to grow an awareness to opportunities.