My Legacy-will

Left behind

It is not what I can consume but what I leave behind which is significant. Achievement is not what I manage to collect for myself, but what I can provide as a result of my efforts. At the end of it all the true test will be what impact I had on my social environment and on the world in general.

A parasitic attitude of selfish acquiring, drains the pool of sharing. Consumerism depletes the resources that were meant for the general good for all. Before you can even start to ask the question; “What is my purpose in life?”, you need to make it out for yourself what you want to leave behind.

A decision about one’s own legacy provides a focus on your ambition. Then, every aspect of life becomes a driver towards meaningfulness. A suitable starting point would be to formulate a “legacy-will” towards which, one can live purposefully.

Open-up options.

dsc00121Growth has to do with the creation of options. Once you run out of choices, there’s not much to live for any longer. Functional and happy people are those who manage to create options in life. This ability is embedded in the human DNA and it is one of the skills that separate us from the other creatures we share our world with.

But unlike other natural abilities, this is one, when neglected, it fades into obscurity.

There are mainly two ways of ensuring progression in this area. The first being the constant development of the number of skills you have. While keeping those you possess active, learn something new every year. The increase of abilities is direct proportionate to the number of options you have in life.

The second is to develop an eye for the gap. The skill to see an opportunity needs to be trained and nurtured.

Having options put one in a position of power, the power of choice.

 

I am

USA 2012 088I am, because we are. “Ubuntu” is the African word for describing the essence of co-existence and the importance of my own position in society. Although my own place in humanity is largely defined by the group I find myself in, my value is determined by myself.

The position I occupy does not establish my worth. The influence I have on my environment does. That is the reason why statues are only built for people who influenced society. Usually having to go against the flow of the usual. Not allowing the way of least resistance to direct their actions.

Standing alone amongst my peers and facing the challenge of the strong current of opposing the institutionalized wrongs that will define me. That is why no statues are built for people who had an easy life.

Whistleblowing is not seen as a virtue among those who have vested interests in mediocrity and the iniquitous.

My attitude towards my own purpose should then rather be: “We are because I am”.

Spiritual advance

SpiritualThe ultimate supplement one needs to grow into being a complete human, is not compressed into a tablet, ground into a powder or dissolved into wonder-drops.

The final ingredient to complete a good, wholesome diet and a healthy lifestyle is a live spirituality. This is where the true energy lies. The one area of our existence where true vitality and drive is generated.

Spirituality is concentrated in the meaning of your life. Discovering the values that you live by. The understanding of the essence of your being. Some of us find it in religious beliefs and others in an inward discovering of who and what your life is all about.

We spend so much time –and money- in pursuing a healthy diet and lifestyle in the hope that it will improve the quality of our life. The one part of our existence we often neglect is the spiritual. An equal amount of time – if not more – should be invested in caring for the spirit. This will set us on the way to a fulfilling, complete life.

Remnants of my journey

Remnants On our journey in becoming who we ought to be, we leave a trail of remnants. Evidence of good and – not so good- choices. Traces of our passing by. Some, in the form of bruises in the lives of people we were unkind or uncaring to, or signs of positive growth through our interest in others.

We are not always aware what influence or effect we have on those who we meet in the normal course of our journey but it is good to be mindful of the fact that all contact with others is significant.

It is not possible to rectify all the wrongs we willingly and unknowingly caused during our wandering through this world. What is possible though, is to take time to reflect over our conduct and interaction with those who we cross paths with. No need to wait till we get feedback, just an inner objective reflection on the way we live life. Pass by the wrecks we left behind because of arrogance or indifference and celebrate the stories of growth because of our care or interest.

Then, concentrate to live with an intense consciousness of leaving a legacy of hope.

Diving down

DiveThe way to the top is often interrupted with a downward turn. In striving to achieve excellence, the route to follow does not allow for an uninterrupted upward gradient. Where excellence does not mean to be the best, but to constantly improve. Not in relation to “others”, but compared to one self. Improving on your own abilities, capabilities and self-worth that are where achieving excellence becomes a constant fight against yourself.

In order to give the next step to reach the next level, there is the need for an ongoing reflection of what lies below the surface. The shadow of what your personality shines towards the world around you. The hidden motives that push you, the concealed anger you mask as “drive”. The envy you present as empathy or the arrogance you screen behind confidence.

The only way to discover and understand the shadow-side is to dive down into who I really am. To constantly ask the question, “why do I feel this way?” or “What is it I actually want?” “Why am I upset?” This kind of diving, gives you the insight into yourself to venture forward and upward.

Together is more

In Africa there is a saying: “If you want to go fast, go alone. If you want to go far go together”. In venturing through this life one quickly learns that going alone is very dangerous, very risky and extremely lonely. Somewhere in the late teens of one’s life the main objective is to go alone. Be independent, do your own thing. It is only in the first major predicament that the realization dawns on you that you actually need others not only to survive but also, and especially, to get ahead – to grow.

Soon you also get to understand that although you may need the others around you, you cannot “like” everyone. Some of those you come across just cannot fit into your template of like-ness. Usually we then try to avoid those or at least evade them to save yourself from having to deal with them. Yet, the sooner one learns to grasp the fact that not to like someone is not to be confused with not to respect or even endure those.

We often hear the phrase that we should “love” one another. That does not mean to “like” everybody is even possible. It means to respect the others and acknowledge the contribution they can make in assisting me to develop my own strengths.

IMG_2842Alone, personal growth is just not possible. Only when you recognize the value of those around you- the ones you like as well as those you don’t- growth towards maturity can commence. Together is more.

The next step

IMG_2689Fear is the energy you need to advance. Our fight or flight energy is coiled within us, waiting to be released. It is inherent to every living creature. Especially true in us as humans. This is the reason why we’ve made it thus far to the top of the food chain.

This is the latent driving force, which can either destroy or develop. Utilizing this fear in a positive way is called courage. Unleashing this underlying power is essential for progress and ultimately success.

Overcoming one’s fear allow you to discover, venture out of the comfort zone and grow. To reach the top, you need to take every challenging step into the unknown. Remaining in what you know kills ambition and restrains forward movement. The test will be the level of uneasiness you feel before taking the next step. Total ease might indicate only activity, but little or no progress like running on a treadmill. Apprehension should be the trigger that you need to set the hidden energy off. Courage is the ability to break through the barriers of doubt.

The angle matters.

LightIt depends on the angle whether you will be able to see the rainbow. It is there, it is always there, but for your observation point it remains hidden. Two things are important in this process, one’s own position and the awareness to spot the light.

To be “in the right place at the right time” one has to pre-determine your position towards life in general. The angle at which you look at opportunities and difficulties will govern your view towards the environment. What might seem like problems or failures to some may reveal itself as an opportunity if seen from the right angle.

The awareness to spot the light from your angle just might show the rainbow against the insignificant background. In business or relationships the angle regulates one’s response. Opportunities are always there; it is often just hidden by false reflections of darkness. Changing your angle could allow you to spot the possibilities in the testing times. Once you developed the habit of consciously placing yourself at the right angle, it becomes easier to grow an awareness to opportunities.

Decadent energy

Life through decayEnergy is indestructible. This is what science teaches us. It can only be changed in another form of energy or made available for alternative use. In the natural world, growth depends on energy made available through a myriad of ways. In all cases however, the process involves the breakdown of something to avail the energy. In nature life thrives on decay because of this very reason.

So often we miss the opportunity to seize the moment because we wait for “things” to get better. In times of hardship or pressure, when our world falls apart we tend to withdraw and wait for our energy to return. One big mistake! The best songs are composed during times of disappointment or grief. Great books are born out of brokenness and the rot of destruction. Best ideas rise out of the chaos of war, or natural disasters.

This is indeed true of personal growth too. Most people will not change unless they end up in a mess or find themselves in an impossible position. Learn to understand the potential that’s locked up in frustration and disappointment.

Use to your advantage the energy released by decay and breakdown of the status quo.