Growth has to do with the creation of options. Once you run out of choices, there’s not much to live for any longer. Functional and happy people are those who manage to create options in life. This ability is embedded in the human DNA and it is one of the skills that separate us from the other creatures we share our world with.
But unlike other natural abilities, this is one, when neglected, it fades into obscurity.
There are mainly two ways of ensuring progression in this area. The first being the constant development of the number of skills you have. While keeping those you possess active, learn something new every year. The increase of abilities is direct proportionate to the number of options you have in life.
The second is to develop an eye for the gap. The skill to see an opportunity needs to be trained and nurtured.
Having options put one in a position of power, the power of choice.
Energy is indestructible. This is what science teaches us. It can only be changed in another form of energy or made available for alternative use. In the natural world, growth depends on energy made available through a myriad of ways. In all cases however, the process involves the breakdown of something to avail the energy. In nature life thrives on decay because of this very reason.
So often we miss the opportunity to seize the moment because we wait for “things” to get better. In times of hardship or pressure, when our world falls apart we tend to withdraw and wait for our energy to return. One big mistake! The best songs are composed during times of disappointment or grief. Great books are born out of brokenness and the rot of destruction. Best ideas rise out of the chaos of war, or natural disasters.
This is indeed true of personal growth too. Most people will not change unless they end up in a mess or find themselves in an impossible position. Learn to understand the potential that’s locked up in frustration and disappointment.
Use to your advantage the energy released by decay and breakdown of the status quo.